💔two children were murdered through premeditated domestic violence this week, the act completed by their father. people feel shocked, heartbroken & overwhelmed about what they can do, often feeling far away from “people who use abuse”, unable to see the warning signs that are present, helpless to have a difficult conversation but wanting to make a difference. •• •• 🎯there is something you can do. today. begin with you. seek out a skilled person who has the skills you want to maintain close & healthy relationships. even when you think you already have this. seek out a skilled person who has the tools to negotiate the uncomfortable. even if you think you already do a job of this. seek out a skilled professional, preferably one who is also a survivor, like myself, who knows it personally & knows the theories & science to back up the personal experience. learn about the signs for abuse & trauma. if not for your own sake... because you can’t predict the future... but i will predict you or someone you love will experience trauma. given 1 in 3 women experience domestic violence in their life, you will be or know an intelligent, capable and confident woman living with abuse, even if she hides it well. this also means you will know a man who uses abuse to control, punish & harm a woman in physical & non physical ways. it is also not that unusual to know a man, a strong & capable man living with abuse. •• •• 💔do you know what to do? are you willing to develop your own skills? imagine if we all took on personal development with the right, skilled professionals? imagine if there was no stigma to seeing a professional but it was lauded as a thing that we do to keep growing. the ripple effect on community would be massive & not just on personal levels, but on business productivity and community wealth; because social welfare costs, policing, homelessness, addiction & anxiety would all decrease. •• •• 🎯are you willing to step up? or do you think what you do won’t make a difference? when everyone thinks that, nothing changes.... you can and do make a difference.